James’s Blog: My Family and Other Disorders.

In this past week our son Parker has been diagnosed with Asperger’s, except it’s not called Asperger’s any more. It’s called Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD), except it won’t be called that for long. They’re changing it to Autistic Spectrum Condition (ASC) because, I assume, that Conditions are less offensive than Disorders. This diagnosis is not bad news for us. We’d assumed that he was autistic for a while now, and had been treating him appropriately. I imagine we’re not alone in being parents who were very relieved to hear that he has ASD, rather than the alternative (“We’re sorry Mr & Mrs Webb. He’s not autistic, he’s just really obnoxious.”).

It’s business as usual for the Webb family really, except that now we have access to various resources and courses that will help us be better parents for him and for his siblings, who struggle more than we do with managing their frustration at his seemingly irrational way of approaching life.

The reality is that no children are easy to raise, and each one should be treated uniquely anyway. In that regard, Parker is just like the rest of them. As difficult as it can be, I enjoy the variety I find in my own house – most of the time, anyway. Our home is a glorious circus; I alternate between being paralysed by laughter and grinding my teeth down to their stumps. I think that family life, like being part of any community, is one of God’s ways of giving us an insight into what it’s like for Him. Would Adam and Eve have been in such a rush to become like God if they had really known that it was less about exercising unlimited power and more about repeatedly having to tidy up after other people who acted like you didn’t exist?

Raising a child with ASD is a challenge, and it brings into the light all those failings that your other children didn’t manage to expose, but I think about the patient, generous way that God has raised me, and it helps.

4 thoughts on “James’s Blog: My Family and Other Disorders.

  • October 12, 2017 at 2:58 pm
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    I really feel for you James & Ruth. Our eldest grandson has ASD, and seeing firsthand what his parents have and are still going through is heartbreaking! I hope and pray you are able to get the help and support that he needs.

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    • October 13, 2017 at 8:40 am
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      Thanks Ruth. Parker’s ASD is not too severe, so I’m sure we won’t need anywhere near as much support as other families.

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  • October 12, 2017 at 10:20 pm
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    Thank you for writing so honestly. I understand some of that struggle too.

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    • October 13, 2017 at 8:40 am
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      Thanks Anne. I’m sure you and Andrew have a lot more insight into this topic than we do.

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